Darlene

Lancaster

July 14, 1949 – October 10, 2025

Darlene Marie Lancaster, born in Queens, NY, and a longtime resident of Montauk, NY, passed away peacefully on October 10, 2025. She was a devoted lifetime partner to Carl DeGroote, with whom she shared 35 beautiful years filled with steadfast love, commitment, and companionship. Together, they found joy in cooking, reminiscing, talking, and simply enjoying quality time side by side.

She was a loving mother to Corrine Colon (husband Gorgi Colon) and Frederick Ryerson (wife Vanessa), and a cherished grandmother to Forrest Yardley, Cole Yardley, Ava Yardley, Camille Ryerson, and Adriana Ryerson She is also survived by her beloved brothers Phillip Tassoni and Jeannette Enderbrock.

Darlene dedicated her life to public service, working in public administration for East Hampton Town. She was a proud member of the Ladies Auxiliary of Montauk and a steadfast servant to her community. Her commitment to helping others was matched only by her unwavering faith and belief in the goodness of people.

In her younger years, Darlene found great joy in running, especially when she participated in the L'eggs Mini Marathon alongside her daughter—a cherished memory of strength and togetherness. She also loved playing tennis with her son and spent many Sundays watching Wimbledon, celebrating the sport and the time spent with family.

She found joy in the simple pleasures of life—writing poetry, capturing moments through photography, and watching nature unfold around her. Her love for the ocean, butterflies, art, and sunsets reflected her free spirit and deep appreciation for beauty.

Darlene will be remembered for her positivity, her unconditional love, and her famous 'Sunday Sauce,' which brought family together for gatherings filled with lasagna, garlic bread, and her famous carrot cake. She always looked her best, never without her favorite lipstick and high heels, and was known to say with a smile, 'You don't kill time, you spend it.'

Her legacy lives on in the warmth of those memories and in the lives she touched with her kindness and grace.

A private service will be held by her family. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Susan G. Komen Foundation or St. Therese's Church of Montauk, causes close to her heart.