James W.

Theinert

On Thursday, September 7, 2023, James William Theinert passed away unexpectedly at the age of
seventy-one due to complications of chronic heart disease. "Big Jim" left this life surrounded by his beloved
family, who will miss him deeply. He was born on February 26, 1952 to William J. Theinert, Jr. and Patricia C.
Theinert in Queens, NY, the middle of three children, which included his older brother Bruce and younger sister
Denise. He grew up in East Meadow, NY, where he attended St. Bridget's catholic primary school and attended
East Meadow high school. It was in high school that he had the chance to play lacrosse and develop a deep
lifelong passion for the sport. In 1977, he followed in his father's footsteps and joined the Fire Department of
New York. Jim proudly served with Ladder 117, Engine 312, and finally as a Chief's Aid with the 49 Battalion.
He was immensely proud of his service to the city of New York and was medically retired in 1998 due to
injuries sustained in the line of duty.
Jim was married twice, first to Chrystyna (Chrys) Skovira. He and Chrys were blessed with three boys, William,
Joseph, and James, and raised them on Shelter Island, NY. An ever present father, Jim could always be found
on the sidelines of his boys sporting events cheering them on loudly. Later he married Catherine Hanly-Forde
of Sag Harbor, NY, and he and Cathy enjoyed nearly two decades together at their beautiful home on Oak
Drive in Sag Harbor. Despite early retirement, Jim will be remembered as someone who loved his community
and his friends, whether by lending a hand, hosting parties at his home, or inviting anyone he could to his
house at Christmas time to see the Christmas Village he set up in his basement, a resplendent toy train and
village. He filled his life and particularly his retirement with seizing chances to catch up with old friends at the
beach, take his sons camping, and bring people together in his own special way. However, life also brought its
share of tragedies, most notably the loss of his son Joe, who was killed while serving his country as a 1LT in
the United States Army in Afghanistan in 2010. Everyone who knew Jim knew how much this loss affected him,
and Jim worked the rest of his life to honor his grief with efforts to share his endless pride at Joe's service and
remember his son's sacrifice.
Jim is predeceased by his son, Joe, his parents, Patricia and William, his brother, Bruce, and his sister, Denise.
He is survived by his beloved wife, Cathy; his children Billy (Nancy), Joe, and Jimbo (Mary) Theinert, Zoe
(Chris) Koegel, and Jason & Barry Hanley-Forde; and his adored grandchildren Cooper, Acadia, and Archie
Theinert, and Rebecca, Claire, and Tommy Koegel. He will be remembered by the communities that knew and
loved him at his wake on Friday, September 15, from 2-4 PM and 7-9 PM at Yardley & Pino Funeral Home in
Sag Harbor, NY, Funeral Mass at 10:30 AM at Our Lady of the Isle in Shelter Island Heights, NY, and a
Celebration of Life from 2-5 PM at the American Legion on Shelter Island, NY. His family requests that in lieu of
flowers, you memorialize Jim if so inclined with a donation to Strongpoint Theinert Ranch.